It is a myth, this American experience of fierce individualism, with an end goal of independence. Society behaves as if we should strive to reach independence in this lifetime and that it is a true measure of greatness; independent thinkers, independently wealthy, independently owned and operated. We even measure children’s growth by milestones of independence. The truth is that no one is ever truly independent, this focus on “the self” causes suffering. The expectation of being self-sufficient, not ever met, is often a source of frustration and resentment. If we changed our thinking towards interdependence we are so much more likely to have reasonable expectations of each other and society. We learn to lean on each other in order to move forward.